love breakdown

[jinian]

Wrote most of this in Kidd Valley (with crayons, since my writing utensils have gone missing from my pursething). Trying to figure out part of why comparable intensities of feeling are so distinctly different to me. Feedback welcome.


I get just A much more often about women and B more about men.

And this stuff at least partially explains why "I have a crush" has been a problem in the past -- I've meant A and the other person has heard A/B. Which the partially explaining is one of the things I wanted to do. Yay.

A.
happy bouncy lovingcare
want to touch
want to talk
trust
missing in the sense of: sad if I think about not having contact at all

B.
sexual attraction
some of A must be present (want to touch, trust) in some amount for this to appear

C.
strong desire to keep close long-term
missing in the sense of: feeling off kilter when not nearby (the option of togetherness is more important than the actuality for this feeling)
wishing to see frequently

having interests in common probably causes/strengthens only A

Comments

that want to touch thing

[roobug.livejournal.com]

for me is very much a "want to be kittens together" thing.