ten days meme (day 3)

[jinian]

Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.

1. Validate my love for clothes. Watching Project Runway or thrift-shopping makes this easy! Giving me stuff/links with Rarity on may also fall into this category.

2. Tease me a bit. After a history of being given a hard time by my parents and yelling at them about it, I admit that they have won; I take perceptive teasing as a sign of love.

3. Send me snail mail. I love sending it, I love getting it. The most recent thing I got was a Betty and Veronica comic about Lady Gaga, but it doesn't have to be that amazing to make me happy.

4. Consensual backrubs. I have a lot of shoulder tension almost all the time, probably due to a combination of low-grade migraines, crafts, and lab work. Just check whether it's a good time first.

5. Let me help you with something important. Lunch dates, care packages, intense emotional analyses, and financial support are all stuff I've been allowed to give to people and felt really good about. Not all of that works for everyone, but if I can help you I feel closer to you.

6. Play video games with me. Scott Pilgrim or Rock Band are great for this. I love video games, always have, and playing them with people (in person) taps into really happy memories.

7. Honestly share your feelings. This includes having a fight with me if we need to have a fight! If you're my friend, I want to know what's up with you. If people don't tell me, it seems like they don't care.

8. Get interested in my work. It even happens with other scientists: people ask about my work and I give the overview, they draw me out more, and then they tune out. WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT. I'm happy to talk about other subjects in the first place, but I love teaching and explaining things and I'm not going to shame you for not knowing molecular biology if you ask questions. (I might be briefly appalled if you don't know photosynthesis exists at all, but then I will tell you about it, and I've gotten pretty good at figuring out where to start in the basics without annoying me or you.)

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn-offs.
Day Eight: Three turn-ons.
Day Nine: Two images that describe your life right now, and why.
Day Ten: One confession.

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[dancingsinging]

I will probably get around to posting this as a general announcement, but in case I don't and since it's relevant to #3: if you email/pm me your address, I will add you to the mailing list of people to receive a birth announcement once the baby's born. (It will be an envelope with a little photo thing from costco in it, without like, written words from me or anything. But still, the love will be there!)