'you're wrong,' nicely
May. 28th, 2002 03:12 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jinianYou know what else? I become much more certain of facts when I'm talking to someone I don't like. I think that's why I get uncomfortable when my (geek-boy for the most part) friends are very definite in contradicting me. It's not because I don't like being wrong, because they're wrong fully as often as I am, even when they're sure they're not. (Not that I don't hate being wrong, but I don't think that's all there is to it.)
So since when am I so worried about people not liking me? Heh. I'm not, for most people. Those people I don't like are right sometimes too, but mostly I don't really care whether they think I'm bitchy as long as they concede I'm smart. [Note jumping-off point for standard does-this-make-me-bad digression.] People I like, though, whose opinions I respect, I'm more careful to treat gently, so it weirds me a bit when they don't treat me the same way. I know perfectly well that vehement disagreement can be a mark of respect, but it's a hard translation to make when it means the opposite in my head.
So since when am I so worried about people not liking me? Heh. I'm not, for most people. Those people I don't like are right sometimes too, but mostly I don't really care whether they think I'm bitchy as long as they concede I'm smart. [Note jumping-off point for standard does-this-make-me-bad digression.] People I like, though, whose opinions I respect, I'm more careful to treat gently, so it weirds me a bit when they don't treat me the same way. I know perfectly well that vehement disagreement can be a mark of respect, but it's a hard translation to make when it means the opposite in my head.
