what I figure the threefold law really means

[jinian]

When I am in a bad situation and thinking it's all due to some other person, what is their problem? If I'm paying attention, I can come up with times I've done similar stuff, and hey, it might have had similar effects on someone else. Maybe even three times before. Maybe it'll happen again later, too. Self-awareness is the thing here. I certainly don't always manage, but having it makes me better able to behave lovingly toward other people, even if I feel hurt. So that's good.