*guh*. i caught the very end re. outing mely; that's got me pretty steamed all in itself. how dare the assholes? i don't care what preceded it, i can't think of anything she'd do that would deserve that. it's unconscionable.

thanks for the pointer. i'm not sure i have energy to get into the racefail part of it -- but yeah, i know i am damned privileged that i have a choice about that.